王应宽 转载 Wang Yingkuan Beijing, China April 22, 2015 At AMI-MOA Learned from LinkedIn http://www.linkedin.com/pulse/10-phrases-successful-people-avoid-losers-use-bernard-marr?trk=eml-b2_content_ecosystem_digest-recommended_articles-186-nullmidToken=AQHg8g2aiB864AfromEmail=fromEmailut=2f8QwG4w1nB6I1 Ten Phrases Successful People Avoid (But Losers Use) 2015 年 4 月 16 日 Winning and losing are about your frame of mind more than anything else. You can be a successful go-getter working in a mail room just as easily as you can be a loser CEO. By cultivating a winner’s mindset, you’ll set yourself up for greatest success. Check out the list of phrases below and note any that pop up in your daily lexicon. Eliminating them from your speech will go a long way to eliminating the negative thoughts that go along with them and help you believe that you can succeed. That won’t work. How do you know it won’t work? Even if it’s something that’s been tried before that doesn’t necessarily mean it won’t work this time. Shutting down ideas without trying them is definitely not the mark of a winner. I can’t do it. OK, negative Nancy, but guess what? If you can’t do it, chances are they’ll find someone else who can. Instead, approach this from the perspective of what you’ll need to accomplish the task. Do you need more training, more support, more supplies, more time? Impossible Things are rarely impossible, so be very careful throwing this word around. In my experience, it often indicates someone closed-minded who can’t see another person’s vision. Rather than declaring it impossible, open your mind to how it might be possible. Brainstorm. Look at the problem from different angles. Nothing amazing was ever created by declaring it impossible. That’s not fair. What are we, four-year-olds? Real life isn’t set up to always be fair, and if you find these words coming out of your mouth, you are almost certainly feeling mistreated. Instead of playing the fair card, however, try looking for opportunities to improve the situation. And, understand that sometimes you’re never going to change a situation to make it fair — you might have to go out and create your own, more fair, situation yourself. It’s not my fault. It may very well not be your fault, but this phrase assumes that you’re laying the blame somewhere else. And nobody wins the blame game. Instead of focusing on blame, focus on solving the problem. How can you step in and make things right — even if you weren’t the one in the wrong? I might be able to… Might is another one of those words like try that set you up to fail. When people use words like this, it’s because they’re expecting not to be able to do whatever is being asked of them. Or, sometimes it’s used grudgingly. A client asks you to go above and beyond your original agreement, and to placate them, you say you “might” be able to add something. In either case, don’t hedge. Stand your ground and say what you mean. That’s not my job. One of the things managers loathe to hear. Sometimes, in order to help the team or move up the ladder, you need to step up and do things that might not ordinarily be in your job description. Don’t let yourself be taken advantage of, but try to look at working outside your comfort zone as an opportunity for experience and growth. Need Need is a funny word. You need food, water, and shelter. You don’t need that report on time, your team to come in for the weekend, or really anything else at work. You want it. Perhaps you even require it for things to function and flow properly. But do you need it? I think… Which sounds more powerful: I think, I believe, or I know? I think can be wishy-washy. Leaders and other successful people are decisive. Go with what you know. I’ll try. Take a page from Yoda’s book of wisdom: Do, or do not. There is no try. People tend to use the word try when they want to leave themselves an out, because they consciously or subconsciously don’t believe they can or will accomplish the task. Obviously, it is not black or white with any of these phrases and there are of course times when you would use them. The point I am trying to make here is more about the mindset and the words we use (as well as the way we say them) are a reflection of that. These are my top 10, but what are yours? Leave your favorite “loser mindset” phrases in the comments below so that we can add to the list.
@ 2006-09-26 03:44 今天是我来到苏格兰的第二周，也是和老板第一次见面。在上周，其实峰（前师弟－现师兄）就已经告诉我，今天peter会见我和chris（另外和我同级的PhD）。以前我就见过他的照片，也在电话里谈了半小时，感觉挺好的。上午到实验室，一直等到下午四点，也没有什么样动静。我就一直在那里自己看文献，查文献，写写自己的研究计划。不经意间，Peter下楼来，看到我在，就很高兴的和我打招呼，然后就告诉我们20分钟后和我们讨论。他先和组里的资深博后Rob讨论，谈了大概半小时，然后就叫我们上四楼，和他谈。他谈的也不多，先和峰谈他目前工作的进展，然后就问我们对自己下一步工作有什么想法。峰就说当然做你想做什么了，把球踢回去了。Peter就三下五除二讲完了，然后问我听懂没有，因为做的材料和我以前几乎一样，所以我几乎都听懂了，而且Peter的想法，与我在想的其中一个最新的方向大致一样（科学机密，等到有结果后，可以公开），我觉得比较开心，毕竟我也想到了一个比较好的方向，接下来就是去做。当然，Peter的口头禅就是一堆堆的good，nice，一次讨论听了他不下20个good。 最后peter讲了一些别的事，如安全最为重要。当然，还有就是和他讨论可以随时找他，试验中有什么阻碍我前进，也可以寻求他的帮助，钱也不是问题。"research is my life"peter 的原话。当然他也明确告诉我，我们这个组方向是只有10%的人愿意做的挑战性的工作，不能跟在人家后面，做没有意义的一般工作，要做就做新颖的、突破性的工作。^
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