1001 句焦点问题大批判 第266-285问 高效焦点解决教练1001问,可以这样问吗?不可以这样问吗? 我们在前面发送了大量的赋能和寻找例外资源的问句,大家在实际的应用中都有哪些收获呢?给客户带来什么呢? 我们通过赋能和寻找例外,最主要的一个作用是让客户从中找到解决当下事情的方法 。 也是为了焦点解决中最后的一个主要语言过程,形成策略和一小步的行动积累足够的资源,让客户自己主动说出可以采取的进一步行为和举措。 266. What do we need to discuss for this session to be useful? 本次会谈中,我们需要讨论哪些话题会对我们有帮助作用? ☝ 这个问句,大家更熟悉的用法,是用在会谈的开始,让客户自己说出想谈论的内容和方向。 267. You must have a good reason to.. . Please tell me more? 您必须有充分的理由去做……请告诉我详细的信息。 268. Not everyone would have been able to say or do that. So you are the kind of person who …? Please tell me more. (positive character interpretation) 并非每个人都能够做出这样的评价或那么做的。那么您是....那样的人吗?请跟我多讲一些吧。(从正面解读性格) ☝ 在细节的“怎样去做的”描述中,会自然而然带出客户的资源和方法。 269. If a client asks for advice: Suppose you got advice from me. How would that help you? 假设一位客户来征求意见:“假设您听取了我的建议,那会对您有什么帮助?” ☝ 焦点解决教练轻易不给客户提建议,或者要非常谨慎给客户提建议,要采取合适的方法给客户提建议。 还记得我们在工作坊中讲的“假如结构”吗?这是一句假如问句的应用形式,还记得其他的类似的问句有哪些吗? 270. What compliment could your partner or another important person in your life give you about that? 您的伴侣或您生命中的另一个重要的人对此会对您说什么赞赏的话? 271. Suppose your partner or another important person in your life had been present in that situation. What would he or she say you did well? 假设您的伴侣或您生命中另一个重要的人出现在了那种情况中。他或她会认为您哪些方面做得很好? 272. Whom could we invite to these sessions to put you on the path toward your goal? 我们要邀请哪些人来参加这些会谈以引领您走上实现目标的道路? ☝ 重要的事情说三遍,重要人物,重要人物,重要人物!引用重要人物的视角下的语言描述,会给客户带来意想不到的效果。 273. In your opinion, what else needs to happen for things to go better? 在您看来,为了让事情更顺利的进行,还需要做什么其他事情? 274. What have you considered on occasion but not yet attempted? 什么事情是您曾经或考虑过但仍未采取实际行动的? 275. How can you make it happen that....? 您怎么能让......发生的? 276. What in this conversation has made you discover that? 在这次谈话中,是什么让您发现了这个情况? 277. Suppose we had sessions about mourning, insight, or processing trauma. How would that help you reach your goal or bring you closer to it? 假设我们会针对哀悼、洞察力或处理创伤等话题召开会谈。要如何做才能帮助您实现或让您更接近您的目标? 282. What do you do to control the urge to engage in an undesired behavior? 您是如何控制住自己想要做出异常行为的冲动的? 283. What else do you do to ease the problem? 为了缓解这个问题,您还做了什么? 284. How did you get through such difficult circumstances without giving up hope? 您是如何摆脱这种困境而不放弃希望的? 285. How dose change usually take place in your life? 您生活中的每一次改变通常都是如何发生的? ☝ 在朝向实现目标的方向上,那些已经做到的事情的迹象中当然也是资源的出处。接下来还可以做些什么呢? 278. How do you hope I can help you with this problem? 您希望我怎样帮您解决这个问题? 279. What is the best way for me to work with you? 我和您一起工作的最佳方式是什么? 280. What did the previous therapist do and which of those things helped? 以前的治疗师做了什么?哪些对您有作用? 281. What should I avoid, and what should I definitely do? 我应该避免什么?我又确实应该做些什么? ☝ 焦点解决的“有用多做”原则,教练要及时调整,问对客户的目标和期待有用的问句。 学习、练习、实践、反思、督导,是一个SF取向工作者的快速成长之路。 敬请期待下期分享。
1001 句焦点问题大批判 第238-265问 \0 \0 高效焦点解决教练1001问,可以这样问吗?不可以这样问吗? 在一次焦点的谈话中,我们会面对不同的客户人群,每一位都具有一些独立的特点。我们熟知的一些看着相似的问句,在不同的客户那里,会有不同的理解,而客户理解的方向就是我们可以打开的他的思维空间。 作为教练,那就让我们在问句的选择上加入更多的可能性,继续我们的赋能和寻找资源问句大放送。下面的这些问句中,有问询客户本人的,更有结合他的重要人物一起的。在我们实际应用的时候,从客户的回答中敏锐地扑捉到信息,总会找到对客户有用的贴切问句。 238. What is or was your best subject in school? 您在学校里最拿手的课程是什么? 239. What positive things would your teacher say teacher say about you? 您的老师会用哪些积极的事情来评价您? 240. What is your specially at work? 您在工作中的专长是什么? 241. In what area do others consult you? 别人会咨询您哪些方面的内容? 242. Who inspires you in your work? 在您工作中,是谁在激励您? 243. According to them, what is important for you to remember in your work? 她们认为你应该在工作中记得什么? 244. Which people encourage you to do this work? 哪些人鼓励您做这项工作的? 245. What did they notice about you that makes them encourage you? 他们是因为在您身上注意到了什么才鼓励您的? 246. Which of your abilities and qualities are most valued by the people with whom you come into contact at work? 您在工作中接触的人最看重您的哪些能力和素质? 247. Who in your network knows that you have these qualities and abilities? 在您的关系网中,谁了解您的技能和素质? 248. What is the most important quality you should remember that you have when you are under pressure? 在面对压力时,您应该记住的您所具备的最重要的素质是什么? 249. What good traits would your partner or another important person in your life say you have that will help you reach your goal? 您的伴侣或您生命中另一个重要的人认为,您具有的将帮助您实现目标的特质是什么? 250. How does your faith help you? 您的信仰是如何帮助您的? 251. How do you manage to keep your head above water? 您是如何避免惹祸上身的? 252. What were some successful moments for you this past week? 在上周,您认为哪些时刻是成功的? 253. What have been some successful moments in your life? 在您的一生中,有哪些成功的时刻? 254. What have been the high points of your life? 您生命中最辉煌的时候都是什么时候? 255. What tells you that it’s a good idea to go on engaging in the desired or undesired behavior? 什么事情能够让您知道,继续从事期望的行为,或者从事不同的行为,哪个是好主意? 256. What are your good qualities? 您的优良品质是什么? 257. What do important people in your life consider to be your goodqualities? 您生命中至关重要的人认为您的优良品质是什么? 258. Where do those qualities come from? 这些优良品质是从什么地方培养起来的? 259. Which qualities can you make use of to address your current problem? 在处理当前问题时,您能用到哪些品质? 260. How can you utilize those qualities to address your current problem? 您如何运用这些品质去解决您当前的问题? 261. How can you continue or expand on this success? 您如何延续或拓展此次成功? 262. What have you learned about your problem, and how does that help? 您从这一个问题中学到了什么?它是如何帮助您的? 263. What have you learned from solving problems in the past that you can apply right now? 如今您可以运用的哪方面的技能是从过去解决问题中学到的? 264. How did you find that out? 您是怎么发现的? 265. What advice do you get from others? 您从别人那里得到了什么建议? 学习、练习、实践、反思、督导,是一个SF取向工作者的快速成长之路。 敬请期待下期分享。
1001句焦点问题大批判 第153-185问 高德明 2016.4 高效焦点解决教练 1001问,可以这样问吗?不可以这样问吗? 这些问句可以带来的好处或假设是: 你能把他们背后的假设找到吗? 他们会激活对方的哪些语言空间? 可以应用的情景又有哪些? 哪些情况这个句子慎重应用? 你可以如何变化它们,让语言更适合你的身份和文化习惯? 153. Could you tell me about your assets and good qualities? 您能告诉我您的优点和长处是什么吗? 你是如何做到的? 154. How do you manage to...? 您是如何设法做到 ...... 的 ? 155. How did you previously manage to...? 您以前是如何设法做到 ...... 的 ? 156. How did you know you were able to...? 您是怎么知道您能 … ? 157. How did you know you could carry out that experiment? 您是怎么知道您能开展这个实验的? 158. How did you know what was needed? 您是怎么知道需要什么的? 159. How do you think you did that? 您认为您是怎么做到的? 160. How have you tackled the problem up to now, and what has helped? 到目前为止您是如何解决这个问题的?是什么帮助了您? 161. How did you find the courage to...? 您是如何鼓起勇气去 ...... ? 162. What gave you the strength to...? 是什么给了您力量让您去 ......? 163. How did you bring yourself to do that? 您是怎样说服自己去这么做的? 164. Where do you find the courage to change when you want to? 您哪里来的勇气让自己想改变的时候就改变? 165. How can you make sure that you will reach your goal? 您怎么能确定您会实现您的目标? 166. How will you do that, exactly? 确切地说,您会怎么做? 167. How could you bring about more small miracles? 您如何能创造出更多的小奇迹呢? 168. How does that good feeling help you for the rest of the day or week? 那种美好的感觉是如何在那天或那一周余下的时光中帮到您? 169. How can you make it easier for you to perform the desired behavior? 您怎么让自己可以更轻松地去尝试所期望的行为? 170. What do you think you did to make that happen? 您认为您做了什么使这种情况发生了? 171. How did you decide to do that? 您是如何做出决定要这样做的? 172. How did you succeed in doing that? 在做这样的事时,您是如何获得成功的? 173. You have a lot of great ideas.How do you come up with them? 您有许多奇思妙想。是怎么想出来的? 174. How do you know that this problem can be solved? 您是怎么知道,这个问题是可以得到解决的? 175. How did you come up with the great idea to do it that way? 您是怎么想出这个妙招来用那样的方式解决这个问题的? 176. How do you manage to stop that undesired behavior? 您怎么设法阻止这种异常的行为? 177. How do you manage to be resolute enough to...? 您是怎么做到坚定不移地去做 ......? 178. Is that how you do it? Can you tell me more about that? 您就是这样做的吗?您能跟我多说点儿有关这件事的事情吗 ? 179. What good intention did you have when you...? 当您 ...... 时,您有什么好的打算? 180. How did you find out that these are ways that work for you? 您是怎么发现这些方法对您来说是有用的? 181. How did you discover that you...? 您是怎么发现您 ...... 的? 182. When did you learn that this is a good way for you? 您是什么时候知道这是一个很好的方法的? 183. What gave you the sense that it was the right time to...? 是什么让您觉得是时候做 ...... ? 你能做些什么,让我把后面的 100 句也给你发过去吗? 学习、练习、实践、反思、督导,是一个SF取向工作者的快速成长之路。 敬请期待下期分享。