尊敬的董校长、汪院长,各位领导老师、亲爱的同学们: 大家上午好!很荣幸代表老师们寄语几句。首先欢迎同学们加入国科大经管学院大家庭,开启你们人生的又一新篇章。重要的事情一般讲三点,凑巧我要分享的也是三点,不见得多重要,但都是我真切的所思所感,希望大家在接下来的二三年、甚至更多年的学习和生活中都能努力把握好重要的平衡,就像经济学的永恒主题 — 公平与效率,当前人类发展的主要挑战 — 经济发展与环境保护。 第一是情怀与功利的平衡。人是趋利的,这也是为何经济学中常有理性人假设,但这个假设很多时候在研究中脱离现实,人生中限制格局。所以我们需要成为一个有情怀的人,做有情怀的研究。圣人王阳明曾问父亲:何为人生第一等事,惟读书登第耳。阳明先生不以为然,他回答:为天地立心,为生民立命、为往圣继绝学,为万世开太平!可能大家觉得这碗鸡汤太浓,但没有这等情怀我想钟南山老先生不会年逾古稀仍坚守在抗疫第一线,张定宇院长也不会蹒跚步履仍奋而忘我;同样,没有让全国人民甚至世界人民不挨饿的野心,不会有袁老杂交水稻之功勋,没有技术改变国家引领世界的情怀,亦不会有今日之华为。如果你努力地去想造福世界,世界也从来不会亏待于你。那么如何把握情怀与功利的平衡?现代经济学之父亚当·斯密作了很好的诠释,每个人可能都会从利己的目的出发,但要通过利他的方式去实现! 第二是寻欲与制欲望的平衡。欲望是与生俱来的,但如何利用好欲望却充满了挑战。我们一方面要追寻正确的欲望,它能培养野心,为我们的梦想提供源源不断的动力,激励前行。另一方面,我们又要控制不当的欲望,比如古人讲的理钱骨者欲兼夫兵刑,典礼乐者又欲与于铨轴,处郡县则思藩臬之高,居台谏则望宰相之要。又比如奢靡的物欲和虚华的外在。那么如何达到寻欲与制欲的平衡?唯有读书(包括科研),因为岁月从来都是无情的,也是公平的,无论你如何拉扯倒饬,你终究要变成大叔或阿姨,与其纠结于如何活成别人眼中稍纵即逝的容貌,不如倔强的浇灌永远属于自己的沉实!如此,即使一身清贫也敢入繁华,两袖清风亦可会佳人。 第三是恒勤与佛系的平衡。抗疫英雄陈薇院士曾被问及如何成功,她坦言从未想过,但立对志向,矢志不渝干 20 年,料想不成功也难。我想这也就是曾国藩先生反复告诫后人的 “ 恒勤 ” 。世上本没有路,走的人多了便成了路,对于做科研的人来说,世上本没有路,走的时间长了便有了路,而这条路应该是通往和谐社会,美丽中国的康庄大路。我不讨厌时下热门的 “ 佛系 ” 一词,但它应该赋予新的理解,佛系不是让人无欲无求或者止欲止求,而是知欲知求,懂得动亦定静亦定的道理,通过养精蓄锐来更好地恒勤。 丹比萨·莫约说过:种一棵树最好的时机是 10 年前,其次是现在。通俗的讲,对未来真正的慷慨,就是把一切都献给现在。这么好的时代,你们还在等什么?如果还在迷惑奋斗的意义,那么我引用一段话告诉你: I work so hard, it doesn’t mean I love money so much , I just don’t want to contribute noting but shouting come on, when my country needs me, have nothing but tears when my parents need me, be powerless when my kids need me, be regretful when I look back decades later. 本文转自国科大经济与管理学院公众号
马上到开学季了,可是新型冠状病毒感染肺炎依然肆虐,能否如期开学是个未知数。面对日趋严重的形势,近日教育部下发《关于在疫情防控期间做好普通高等学校在线教学组织与管理工作的指导意见》的通知,并提供了20多个在线课程平台,要求各高校“停课不停教、停课不停学”。学院随即在工作群里下发了通知,要求老师们做好网上在线教学的准备。 本学期的课程,网上在线教学的概率比较大了,抽空抓紧调试一下那台微型DV摄像机,为网上开课做好准备。各位亲们,Are you ready?
Students, Welcome to College; Parents, Go Home Brian C. Frank for The New York Times Tim Marsho watches his son Chris move in at Grinnell College. if($('div.articleSpanImage') != null) { var articleSpanImage = $('div.articleSpanImage') .getElementsByTagName("img") ; var articleSpanImageSrc = articleSpanImage.getAttribute('src'); articleSpanImage.setAttribute('src',"http://graphics8.nytimes.com/images/global/backgrounds/transparentBG.gif"); var filter = "progId:DXImageTransform.Microsoft.AlphaImageLoader(src='"+articleSpanImageSrc+"', sizingMethod='scale' )"; articleSpanImage.style.filter = filter; } By TRIP GABRIEL Published: August 22, 2010 var articleToolsShareData = {"url":"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2010\/08\/23\/education\/23college.html","headline":"Students, Welcome to College; Parents, Go Home","description":"Faced with parents who have a hard time saying goodbye to their freshmen, colleges formalize the split.","keywords":"Colleges and Universities,Parenting","section":"education","sub_section":null,"section_display":"Education","sub_section_display":null,"byline":"By TRIP GABRIEL ","pubdate":"August 22, 2010","passkey":null}; function getShareURL() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.url); } function getShareHeadline() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.headline); } function getShareDescription() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.description); } function getShareKeywords() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.keywords); } function getShareSection() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.section); } function getShareSubSection() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.sub_section); } function getShareSectionDisplay() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.section_display); } function getShareSubSectionDisplay() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.sub_section_display); } function getShareByline() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.byline); } function getSharePubdate() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.pubdate); } function getSharePasskey() { return encodeURIComponent(articleToolsShareData.passkey); } GRINNELL, Iowa In order to separate doting parents from their freshman sons, Morehouse College in Atlanta has instituted a formal Parting Ceremony. Enlarge This Image Brian C. Frank for The New York Times Boyd Monson, 19, and his father, Roland Monson, at Grinnell College in Iowa, which holds a ceremony to formalize separation. Enlarge This Image Brian C. Frank for The New York Times Alex Bazis, 18, and his father, Tim, at the mailboxes at Grinnell. The college urges parents to leave on moving-in day. It began on a recent evening, with speeches in the Martin Luther King Jr. International Chapel. Then the incoming freshmen marched through the gates of the campus which swung shut, literally leaving the parents outside. When University of Minnesota freshmen move in at the end of this month, parental separation will be a little sneakier: mothers and fathers will be invited to a reception elsewhere so students can meet their roommates and negotiate dorm room space without adult meddling. As the latest wave of superinvolved parents delivers its children to college, institutions are building into the day, normally one of high emotion, activities meant to punctuate and speed the separation. It is part of an increasingly complex process, in the age of Skype and twice-daily texts home, in which colleges are urging Velcro parents to back off so students can develop independence. Grinnell College here, like others, has found it necessary to be explicit about when parents really, truly must say goodbye. Move-in day for the 415 freshmen was Saturday. After computer printers and duffle bags had been carried to dorm rooms, everyone gathered in the gymnasium, students on one side of the bleachers, parents on the other. The president welcoming the class of 2014 had his back to the parents a symbolic staging meant to inspire an aha! moment, said Houston Dougharty, vice president of student affairs, an epiphany where parents realize, My student is feeling more comfortable sitting with 400 people they just met. Shortly after, mothers and fathers were urged to leave campus. Moving their students in usually takes a few hours. Moving on? Most deans can tell stories of parents who lingered around campus for days. At Colgate University in Hamilton, N.Y., a mother and father once went to their daughters classes on the first day of the semester and trouped to the registrars office to change her schedule, recalled Beverly Low, the dean of first-year students. We recognize its a huge day for families, she said. Still, during various parent meetings on Colgates move-in day, which is Thursday, Ms. Low and other officials plan to drop not-so-subtle hints that activities for the class of 2014 begin promptly at 4, she said. Formal hit the road departure ceremonies are unusual but growing in popularity, said Joyce Holl, head of the National Orientation Directors Association . A more common approach is for colleges to introduce blunt language into drop-off schedules specifying the hour for last hugs. As of 5:30 p.m. on Sept. 11, for example, the parents of Princeton freshmen learn from the move-in schedule, subsequent orientation events are intended for students only. The language was added in recent years to draw a clear line, said Thomas Dunne, the associate dean of undergraduates. Its easy for students to point to this notation and say, Hey, Mom, I think youre supposed to be gone now, he said. Its obviously a hard conversation for students to have with parents. For evidence, consider a chat-board thread by new Princeton parents on the Web site College Confidential . Do parents hang around for a day or two after orientation in case their kids need something? one poster, mrscollege, asked. I say no, but we have a friend who is planning to hang around for a while in Princeton for her son just in case. Some undergraduate officials see in parents separation anxieties evidence of the excesses of modern child-rearing. A good deal of it has to do with the evolution of overinvolvement in our students lives, said Mr. Dougharty of Grinnell. These are the baby-on-board parents, highly invested in their students success. They do a lot of living vicariously, and this is one manifestation of that. He and other student-life officials encourage parents to detach not just at drop-off but throughout the freshman year, including limiting phone calls and text messages. Parents, of course, know that in their head. But they still struggle to let go. After lunch on Saturday at Grinnell, before the hail and farewell ceremony, Gary and Glorialynn Calderon easily welled up while visiting the campus mailroom with their daughter. Its hard, were overprotective, Mr. Calderon admitted. His wife, a kindergarten teacher, said Grinnells message that at 4 p.m. college was starting and parents must go reminded her of what she tells the mothers and fathers of her pupils on the first day of school: Say goodbye and just leave, because the kids calm down. Their daughter, Aileen, a softball player, said that she had initially been fearful about starting college, but now Im excited and ready to go. That seemed altogether typical of the freshmen, who were looking forward to the floor bonding exercises with dorm mates and were failing to share parental nostalgia. The pressure to let go had really begun a year earlier while touring colleges, said Leslie Nelson, who with his wife, Jill Hayman, had spent three days driving their son, Micah, from New York City. Ms. Hayman corrected her husband: I think the pressure starts when the umbilical cord falls off, she said. Im not the only mom here whos been dreading this since that day. As a comfort, she had read books about the stages of grief. You have to just allow yourself to experience the loss and grieve over whats gone, she said. But Micah was eager to get on with it. I havent been thinking about anything theyve been saying, he said, as his parents looked on. As for Mr. Dougharty of Grinnell College, for the first time in his academic career he missed his own campuss move-in day. He and his wife were busy Saturday, dropping off their only child, Allie, at Earlham College in Richmond, Ind., to begin her freshman year. Mr. Dougharty had made reservations at a bed-and-breakfast near the campus for Saturday night, but then his wife, Kimberly, questioned why they should stay around after dropping Allie off. I had to look at myself in the mirror, Mr. Dougharty said. I had thought, On Sunday morning we can swing by and take Allie to breakfast. Kimberly was good and sane We have to get down the road. This article has been revised to reflect the following correction: Correction: August 23, 2010 In an earlier version of this article, a photo caption misspelled the name of Boyd Monson's father. His name is Roland, not Ronald. A version of this article appeared in print on August 23, 2010, on page