1001 句焦点问题大批判 第238-265问 \0 \0 高效焦点解决教练1001问，可以这样问吗？不可以这样问吗？ 在一次焦点的谈话中，我们会面对不同的客户人群，每一位都具有一些独立的特点。我们熟知的一些看着相似的问句，在不同的客户那里，会有不同的理解，而客户理解的方向就是我们可以打开的他的思维空间。 作为教练，那就让我们在问句的选择上加入更多的可能性，继续我们的赋能和寻找资源问句大放送。下面的这些问句中，有问询客户本人的，更有结合他的重要人物一起的。在我们实际应用的时候，从客户的回答中敏锐地扑捉到信息，总会找到对客户有用的贴切问句。 238. What is or was your best subject in school? 您在学校里最拿手的课程是什么？ 239. What positive things would your teacher say teacher say about you? 您的老师会用哪些积极的事情来评价您？ 240. What is your specially at work? 您在工作中的专长是什么？ 241. In what area do others consult you? 别人会咨询您哪些方面的内容？ 242. Who inspires you in your work? 在您工作中，是谁在激励您？ 243. According to them, what is important for you to remember in your work? 她们认为你应该在工作中记得什么？ 244. Which people encourage you to do this work? 哪些人鼓励您做这项工作的？ 245. What did they notice about you that makes them encourage you? 他们是因为在您身上注意到了什么才鼓励您的？ 246. Which of your abilities and qualities are most valued by the people with whom you come into contact at work? 您在工作中接触的人最看重您的哪些能力和素质？ 247. Who in your network knows that you have these qualities and abilities? 在您的关系网中，谁了解您的技能和素质？ 248. What is the most important quality you should remember that you have when you are under pressure? 在面对压力时，您应该记住的您所具备的最重要的素质是什么？ 249. What good traits would your partner or another important person in your life say you have that will help you reach your goal? 您的伴侣或您生命中另一个重要的人认为，您具有的将帮助您实现目标的特质是什么？ 250. How does your faith help you? 您的信仰是如何帮助您的？ 251. How do you manage to keep your head above water? 您是如何避免惹祸上身的？ 252. What were some successful moments for you this past week? 在上周，您认为哪些时刻是成功的？ 253. What have been some successful moments in your life? 在您的一生中，有哪些成功的时刻？ 254. What have been the high points of your life? 您生命中最辉煌的时候都是什么时候？ 255. What tells you that it’s a good idea to go on engaging in the desired or undesired behavior? 什么事情能够让您知道，继续从事期望的行为，或者从事不同的行为，哪个是好主意？ 256. What are your good qualities? 您的优良品质是什么？ 257. What do important people in your life consider to be your goodqualities? 您生命中至关重要的人认为您的优良品质是什么？ 258. Where do those qualities come from? 这些优良品质是从什么地方培养起来的？ 259. Which qualities can you make use of to address your current problem? 在处理当前问题时，您能用到哪些品质? 260. How can you utilize those qualities to address your current problem? 您如何运用这些品质去解决您当前的问题？ 261. How can you continue or expand on this success? 您如何延续或拓展此次成功？ 262. What have you learned about your problem, and how does that help? 您从这一个问题中学到了什么？它是如何帮助您的？ 263. What have you learned from solving problems in the past that you can apply right now? 如今您可以运用的哪方面的技能是从过去解决问题中学到的？ 264. How did you find that out? 您是怎么发现的？ 265. What advice do you get from others? 您从别人那里得到了什么建议？ 学习、练习、实践、反思、督导，是一个SF取向工作者的快速成长之路。 敬请期待下期分享。
1001 句焦点问题大批判 第205-237问 \0 \0 高效焦点解决教练1001问，可以这样问吗？不可以这样问吗？ 赞赏自己 在我们开始一次教练谈话的时候，或者是在寻找资源阶段，有的客户不那么容易进入引导的话题或者是语言空间中，那我们可以换个方式，先来给他赋能，从他最喜欢和最擅长的地方开始吧！ 205. Can you tell me where your interests lie? 您能告诉我您对哪些事情感兴趣吗？ 207. If you had a month-long vacation, what would you do? 如果您有一个月的假期，您想做什么？ 208. How do you most enjoy spending your time? 您最喜欢如何度过这段时间？ 209.What are you good at? What exactly does that involve? 您擅长什么？您的强项中确切地涉及些什么？ 211. What do you like about your self? 您喜欢自己什么？ 214. What was easy for you when you were a child? 对于小时候的您来说，什么事情是容易做到的？ 215. What are your hobbies? 您的爱好是什么？ 216. What activities do you find relaxing? 什么样的活动让您觉得很放松？ 217. What activities that you used to do would you like to pick up again? 您曾经参加过的哪些活动让您念念不忘，还想再来一次？ 218. What have been the most significant experiences of your life(e.g. traveling, studying, winning a competition)? 您生命中对您影响最大的经历是什么（例如：旅行，学习，赢得比赛）？ 219. Have you ever conquered a bad habit(e.g. smoking, nail-biting)? How did you manage that? 您有没有克服掉过某个坏习惯（如，吸烟、咬指甲）？您是如何做到的？ 226. What have you achieved that you're proud of? 您取得了哪些让自己引以为傲的成就？ 227. What effect did that have on you? 那对您有什么影响？ 231. What would you like to do in your life that would give you a sense of pride? 在您一生中，您想做什么让自己自豪的事情？ 232. Suppose you were able to do that. What difference would that make for you ? 假设您有能力这样做，这件事会让您有什么改变吗？ 236. We all have something unique to offer. What is it that you offer? 我们每个人身上都有独特之处。您的独特之处是什么？ 237. In what situations do you compliment yourself? 您在什么情况下会赞赏自己？ 重要人物的赏识 在上面的问句交流中，客户的诉说就是在自我建立信心，相信自己曾经有过辉煌闪耀和成功的时刻，同时我们也会发现他的能力，优秀品质，还有他会提及的重要人物等等。在实际应用中，我们也可以转换视角，引入他身边相关的重要人物，持续为客户赋能，更是挖掘资源！ 206. What would your partner or another important person in your life reply if asked what your interests are? 如果问您的伴侣或您生命中至关重要的一个人，您的兴趣爱好是什么，他们会怎么回答？ 210. What do the important people in your life (partner, child, friend, parent) like about you? 您生命中至关重要的那个人（伴侣、孩子、朋友、父母）喜欢您什么？ 212. What do you do better than others? 您在哪一方面做得比别人好？ 213. What is easy for you that others probably find difficult? 哪些事情是您认为容易而别人却可能觉得很难的？ 220. If so-and-so(e. g,, a deceased person)could see how you live your life now, what would he or she be proud of you for? 如果某某人（例如，一位逝者）可以看到您现在是如何生活的话，他或她会为您的什么而感到自豪？ 221. If it were possible for that person to see how you live your life now, what would he or she say about you? 如果那个人有可能看到您现在是如何生活的话，他或她会如何评价您呢？ 222. How would he or she say you've accomplished that? 他或她会如何评价您的成就？ 223. Who helped you with that? 是谁帮您的？ 224. How did you see your parents deal with similar situations? 您认为您父母是如何处理类似情况的 ? 225. How did others react when your parents dealt with those situations in that way? 当您的父母用那种方式处理这些情况时，其他人有什么反应？ 228. What you have achieved that you’re proud of, what effect did it have on others? 您取得的那些让您引以为傲的成就，对别人有什么影响？ 229. What effect would it have on you if you were given the opportunity to do that more often? 如果您经常有机会那么做的话，对您会有什么影响？ 230. What have you achieved that the important people in your life are proud of you for? 您取得了哪些让您生命中至关重要的人引以为傲的成就？ 233. In what situations have you received compliments from others? 在什么情况下，您会得到别人的赏识？ 234. What difference would it make for you if you did agree with my compliment? 如果您确实担当的起我的赞美，会怎么样呢？ 235. What qualities do others value in you? 别人看重您身上哪些特质？ 上面的问句，有很多可以灵活应用的场景。当我们把这些问句都应用的特别好的时候，会给我们带来什么不同呢？会给和我们交流的人带来哪些影响呢？ 学习、练习、实践、反思、督导，是一个SF取向工作者的快速成长之路。 敬请期待下期分享。
1001 句焦点问题大批判 第184-204问 高效焦点解决教练1001问，可以这样问吗？不可以这样问吗？ 假设在客户认为 自己 不好的情境中，通过我们的问句让他发现自己原本具有的、因当下过多关注问题而被忽略的应对能力和品质，让客户进一步加强自我肯定和正面认知。 作为一名教练，不露声色地赞美客户需要在实践中逐步的积累经验和方法。焦点解决中最好用的赞美方式——引发客户的自我赞美！我们用问句打开客户的思维空间，让他在语言的叙述中看到自己的闪光点，从而找到改变现状的有用资源。 下面的这些问句，我们如何应用可以更好地帮助到客户呢？ 应对 --- 你是怎么做到的？ 184. What makes you so resolute in your into now?” 是什么让您想在这一点上努力一搏？ 185. What drives you to put some work into it now? 现在是什么驱使您要做这方面的工作？ 186. What makes you so resolute in your opinion? 是什么让您如此坚持己见？ 187. What is the most important thing you need to be reminded of doing in order to maximize the chance that that happens again? 您需要记得哪件重要的事情，能够最大程度上增加这种情况再次发生的几率？ 188. What is the second most important thing to remember? 要记住的第二重要的事情是什么？ 189. How can I help you? What role do you see me playing in this? 要我帮忙吗？您认为在这件事上我起什么作用？ 190. How did you manage to come today ,despite the fact that you’re doing badly or worse? 尽管您做的很差甚至更糟，您是怎么来的？ 191. How did you manage to motivate yourself to come here today? 您今天是如何设法激励自己到这儿来的？ 192. How do you manage to stay on the right track? 您是如何设法一直坚持沿着正确的方向前进的？ 193. How do you manage to get back on the right track ？ 您是如何设法让自己回到正确的轨道上来的？ 194. What ideas do you already have for reaching your goal? 为了实现自己的目标，您已经打定什么主意了？ 195. When was your last success? How did that go ,and who did what? What was your role in achieving this success?” 您上次取得成功是在什么时候？是怎么回事？又是谁做了什么？在取得这一成功过程中，您发挥了什么作用？ 203.What is already going well and doesn't need to change? 哪些事情已经进展地很好了，不需要改变了？ 204.How can you do more of what is already going well? 您如何才能更多的尝试那些已经进展的很好的事情？ 你拥有的素质和技能 196. Suppose you were to compliment yourself on your effort. What would you say? 假设您可以针对自己的努力做自我表扬。您会说些什么？ 197. What qualities and skills does this success show you that you have? 通过该次成功，您看到自己具有什么样的素质和技能？ 198. When did you become aware that you had those qualities? 您什么时候开始意识到自己具有这样的素质的？ 199. When did other people become aware that you have those qualities? 别人是在什么时候开始意识到您具有这样的素质的？ 200. In what situations are those qualities most noticeable 在什么情况下，这些素质最明显？ 201. How could you avail yourself of those traits and skills even more than you're doing now? 您怎么才能更加充分的利用自己这些品质和技能，甚至超过现在的利用程度？ 202. How would others notice that you're making greater use of those qualities? 如何才能让其他人注意到您正在更加充分地利用这些特质？ 1001夜系列文章 【SFP1001问句实践总结】高德明导师：关于客户问题复发的问句 【SFP 1001夜 十七】用以总结、评估会谈的40个SF问句 【SFP 1001夜 十六】可以赋能的133个SF问句 【SFP 1001夜 十五】一篇不想让你看懂的没有写完的焦点文章 【SFP 1001夜 十四】焦点问句中那些引导你进入未来世界的因素 【SFP 1001夜 十三】教练的过程需要那么认真较真吗？ 【SFP 1001夜 十一】焦点空间的语无伦次与焦点教练的头脑清醒 【SFP 1001夜 十】文中的关键点你已觉知，恭喜你SFBC，你过关了 【SFP 1001夜 九】你有什么样的收获我们可以结束了 【SFP 1001夜 八】不知所云＆异想天开，SFBC你遇到过这样的人吗 【SFP 1001夜 七】一条鱼的期待 【SFP 1001夜 六】焦点解决奇迹问句50年前长成什么样子？ 【SFP 1001夜 五】如果你的问题得到了解决，会有什么不同？ 【SFP 1001夜 四】焦点解决早期咨访关系划分方法影响下的问句 【SFP 1001夜 三】焦点解决不断贴近合约目标的问句应用 【SFP 1001夜 二】看了这篇文章后，你会发生什么？ 【SFP 1001夜 一】焦点解决问句可以这样问？不可以这样问？ 学习、练习、实践、反思、督导，是一个SF取向工作者的快速成长之路。 敬请期待下期分享。
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